Why does she keep contacting me? I hope to be with her again someday!
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|Wed, 12-14-2011 - 8:28pm|
We had dated off and on for about a year and then were in a relationship for about a year. While in a relationship, she broke up with me twice over some stupid stuff and stuff her friends said. Whenever I would try talking to her about and try to work it out, she'd tell me "we dont work, you need to move on!" Then about a month later, she'd want to get back together. Its almost like she'd get upset, make a rash decision after talking to someone and then end it without trying to work it out and then want you back. As much as I love her and would like to be with her, she's a very selfish, critical and non supportive person, stuff that I only noticed when we were in a relationship, but not before. I noticed she is like this with her ex bf too. They maintain a friendship, but I can see his frustration with her on many occasions because she was very critical of him.
We got back together at the end of April, knowing she was going to be leaving on August 1st for Texas for grad school. She initiated getting back together also, but I could tell we both missed each other. She had dumped me in February over a little fight and some communication immaturity on my part, but I always felt it was something that could have been worked though and her roommate really wanted me out of the picture for some reason.
She said she was going to stay single until she left, but we were still going to date, but she didn't want her roommate to know because she'd get flack! She always would say her roommate would give her flack for dating me. That kind of hurt because I never did anything wrong to her roommate.
When we got back together, she said "Caitlin(the roommate) doesn't think you're the one for me!" and "When I move to Texas, I'll probably meet my husband and he'll be a chemistry major like me!"
Well, she moved on August 1st and September 4th, her facebook profile said she was in a relationship and low and behold, he's a chemistry grad student just like her! I felt pretty crushed and I'm still deeply hurt. I've talked to everyone I know about this because I'm so bothered, I feel as if I lost her. She texted me to tell me about the new guy when it happened too.
Everyone, including my friend that knows her, tell me that her behavior with the selfishness and criticism will carry over into her next relationship, etc...and being how quick it was, nobody thinks it will last. I automatically assume its her husband and want to move on, but I cant just yet. My heart tells me not to and my brain says to move on. My plan was always when I get to one of the airlines as a pilot next year, that I'd get a route close to her and we could start up where we left off, now I dont think that will happen. Most people tell me she seems like a "*****" and that they wouldnt take her back.
I'm trying to figure out if she got with this guy so fast because it was love at first sight and they have this great connection or she was really lonely and didn't know anyone like she had indicated to me when she first got there and just jumped on board with someone right away. I know her to have had a long period of being single and that guys she dated before me dont last very long. I always assumed they got sick of her antics. Your thoughts? She has tried to initiate contact with me a handful of times as well! Most recently, she tried talking to me on Facebook, but it was more her asking me some questions and telling me that she was taking a break from studying, but that's about it and I recently got rid of my old phone that had Google Talk, which was her way of contacting people. Two days after getting rid of it I get a text message from her with a picture of her cat and it said, "Pumpkin says Howdy from Texas!" Pumpkin is her cat obviously. How the hell do you interrupt this stuff?