why doesn't he acknowledge me?
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why doesn't he acknowledge me?
| Thu, 02-05-2004 - 1:40pm |
I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months and i love him very much. When we first started going out he called me all the time and I was always over at his house. Then after about 3 months he didn't really call me that much. I usually would call him and make plans with him and would go along with them. I tried talking to him and telling him that I am the only one working at our relationship and it should be both of us. I feel that he doesn't ever want to talk to me. Yesterday I told him to call me and he never did and I called him today and he isn't there. I just want to know where he is and not be worried. I think that our relationship could be very good if he just let me know things and call more often. I don't know what to do to get it planted in his head that he needs to let me know where he's at and to call me. I have tried talking to him many times about it and he always says he will, what should I do? And what does his actions mean?

Well, he is probably thinking the same thing, this relationship would be great if my girlfriend didn't pester me needing to know where I was all the time and didn't make me "check in" because she is nervous about where I am.
James
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You really are not getting my point at all.
James
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Then again, if you feel you are making all the plans etc., just stop doing that. Don't be so available. Why should he bother making plans and organizing dates, when he knows you are doing it? You are spoiling him, and now he is taking you for granted. Stop calling him. Get your mind on other things. Get out with your friends without calling him, and see how he reacts. Decide that you are not going to call him. period. Then don't call. If you drift apart... well, maybe it is a good idea. If he still won't move, maybe he is not that interested in the relationship. You really don't want to be with someone who is not interested in you, do you? You want to be with someone who looks forward to being with you! You deserve that, come on!
I used to go out with a guy i really liked. Then I realized I was the one always organizing dates, and I just stopped being available. Now I am perfectly happy with someone who, from the start, made serious efforts to show me he wanted to spend time with me. We are living together now.