Why is he doing this?

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Registered: 11-09-2004
Why is he doing this?
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Tue, 09-23-2008 - 1:54pm

Please help? I have been dating this man for 2 weeks but seened longer for both of us. He has not dated anyone for 9 years since his divorce. We connected in all ways. We could even finish each others sentences. But know he is scared and does not know if he wants to go on. We were very comfortable together. He was the only one I could even fall asleep on his chest. I have never been ever done that before. I thought we had a connection. Then he go sick and didn't know why he didn't want me around and started to think that he doesn't know why? So that scared him. How can he go from dreaming of us doing yard work in his yard to not knowing if we are ment to be? My friends say to give him time and he will come back but I don't know. I would hope but not sure. We couldn't even wait to get off work to see or talk to each other. We both felt this way then I don't know what happen. We felt like we were in a dream and didn't want to wake up but now it is different. Please help. Will he be back? I have a bad ache in my heart and don't know what to do. He said he had to find out what he wants. He has been alone for some time and then he like it when we were together and said he missed that. He said he really really like me but then what happen? What do I do?

Concern,
Maggie
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 2:32pm

Welcome to the board babycakes1967,


Sounds like you too moved too fast. Could be that alone scared him off.

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Registered: 10-13-2006
Tue, 09-23-2008 - 2:40pm

As much as you think you found this amazing connection in two weeks you didn't. It's called infatuation or lust. You don't know anyone in 2 weeks or even 2 months. It takes at least a year to get to really know someone. I'm sure you want love but that comes in time.