why is he flirting?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
why is he flirting?
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Wed, 07-21-2004 - 5:55pm
I am living with a man and we are very happy until we run into this one particular woman. He says he's not interested in her. He says that he thinks she's nuts. She tells people that she wants him and she let's him know by her actions. She doesn't care if I see what she's doing and how she looks at him or the sexual comments she makes to him. He doesn't acknowledge the comments. Eventhough he says he's not interested, if she doesn't pay attention to him, he'll purposely bump into her. He denies that it on purpose. Maybe it's just me.

Just to let you know, I was married for many, many years and I'm not use to this type of thing. Maybe I'm over reacting. I'd love some advise on what you think might me going on and how I should handle this.

F

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 07-22-2004 - 1:54pm
If he's not setting a clear boundary with her and telling her to back off, then he likes her attention whether or not he thinks she's nuts.


Carrie

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:31pm
I just don't understand how two people can be so happy and one of them flirts with somebody else. Is it something I need to worry about or is it just an ego builder? I've talked to a friend and she said that my guy would never do anything and that he loves me. She says that it's an ego builder and that I shouldn't worry. Guys will be guys. I think that in a relationship, each person should respect and honor what they have and what they are building together. I'm verbal with him about it too and he tells me I have nothing to worry about. He says that he's just being friendly. Maybe it is me over-reacting. I question myself.

Thank you for answering my question.

F

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Mon, 07-26-2004 - 4:36pm
Personally, if he needs his ego boosted from another woman, he's not the guy for me.


Carrie