Why is it always his way!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
Why is it always his way!
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Fri, 11-30-2007 - 2:40pm
I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We live together.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 3:33pm

Welcome to the board lablover723,


::How can I love a man that has such high standards for me but expects so little from his children?


:: So do you love him?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 4:17pm

Do I love him?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 4:43pm
Please leave him. He's clearly walking all over you and anyone willing to do it to this extent cannot change. He lets his kids run amok. You pay all the bills and he is now impaitent that you can't find a job. Can you
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 4:59pm

No, that wasn't going to be my next answer. I was just asking because you said...how can I love a man...


I do have to say that I think you pay your far share of the bills and I am not sure why he expects you to pay anymore.


Would he be willing to go to some couples counseling and/or parentling classes with you?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 5:23pm

I have mentioned counseling and at one point to stop an arguement he agreed.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 5:25pm
I do see!
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 5:55pm

Welcome to the board lablover723,


It does not sound to me that the two of you are on the same page in regards to a lot of things in the relationship - kids, marriage, finances, jobs, chores around the house.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-17-2007
Fri, 11-30-2007 - 7:15pm

Because - in short - he's an ass and you're asking "WHY" too much. You keep wanting him to see your point of view and he's not going to. You have to act and stop expecting him to do something to please you because that does not appear to be his mode of operation.


YOU HAVE TO MAKE A CHOICE, because he does not see relationships the same way you do. Stop waiting for him to change.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-05-2007
Sat, 12-01-2007 - 12:27am
God, he sounds so much like my boyfriend that it is a little sickening. I want to say leave him, but I am not one to talk. This is because I put up with alot of the same things and still stick around. However, I really do feel used, taken for granted, and just crapped on. He, like your boyfriend, also refuses to admit any wrong doing. I don't pay all the bills, but I did pay for most of the yard re-do that allows him no significant yard work. I hope I am strong enough to leave him if this continues. If I try to bring anything up or show any displeasure with him, he automatically calls me a jerk and says to leave him alone. What about you?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2007
Sat, 12-01-2007 - 12:21pm
I am sorry to here my boyfriend has a twin.

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