Why me?

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Registered: 08-05-2007
Why me?
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Sun, 08-05-2007 - 11:05pm
I had been dating this guy for 6 years, and back in March I left to see family for a week. When I came back, I went to go and see him, it was all cool. I called him that weekend to see if I could come over and we have dinner like we usally do, and a girl answered saying this is his girlfriend. I went into panic mode, and broke down and cryed, and then called him back and left a not so good message on his phone, cause I freaked out I guess. I haven't been the same since then. I try to call him, but I can't even get a hold of him to even ask, what I did wrong to deserve this. Since that I've been going to church, which is a good thing that I did cause I'm looking for some kind of connection so to speak. I guess you can say I'm gettin in touch with my inner self. And I also looked up a whole bunch of stuff on the internet trying to figure what I should do, but I always end up trying to call him anyways, because I still care and love this guy from the bottom of my heart. I just don't understand how I can be treated this way. I know we had our ups and downs, but it seemed to be going so good, then he pulls this stuff on me. I want to know what I can do. It seems I can't live without him sometimes. It's to hard to bare. He wasn't my first love, but he was the first real connection I have felt safe to be with, and we could talk about anything, but this, really hit the bucket. I just need some help, on trying to get him back. I don't want to do anything bad, but this is killing inside. Please HELP!!!!!!
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Registered: 09-19-2002
In reply to: hunyjms
Mon, 08-06-2007 - 2:48am

WHAT A BUM!!! (I had another word in mind, but it's not allowed on the boards.) I'm sorry you were treated this way. It's just not right. I don't know what to say except stop calling him and move on. He may never give you the answer that you seek. He showed you his true colors and they aren't pretty! This is not the type of man you want to invest any more time in anyway. Keep going to church if that gives you solace. You might consider seeing a counselor for a little while so you have somewhere to let out your feelings.

Take care of yourself,
TB

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Registered: 02-05-2007
In reply to: hunyjms
Tue, 08-07-2007 - 5:00pm

Welcome to the board hunyjhms,


Sorry you have to go through this. Sounds like he doesn't want to talk to you or explain. I wonder how long he's been seeing her.