Why Must He Lie??
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Why Must He Lie??
| Thu, 07-22-2004 - 9:53am |
I've been with my bf for a year and a half and living together for about 10months. Our relationship has it's ups and downs but we both really love eachother very much. The problem is that he always seems to lie about really stupid things and sometimes bigger issues. A couple months after moving in together we were having problems and I found out he was talking to some other girls- online and on the phone. Even though it didn't go any further I was really devistated by this. It took him forever to even somewhat admit what happened, even though I had proof of what he was doing. We decided to work things out but I can't seem to trust him anymore. He lies to me about little tiny things, like if I ask him if he fed the cat, he'll tell me he did(which I find out he didn't). I just don't understand why he feels the need to lie about little things, and I feel that if he's lying about the little things, how can I trust him on the bigger issues and how do I get past feeling like he's going to or still cheating on me??? I really want things to work out and be together- like they were when we met and first started dating. I could really use any advice- guy or girl??

That is a good question considering he is proving over and over that there is no reason to trust him. If you have a broken arm and you keep playing baseball and lifing weights it it isn't going to heal. If he keeps lying, how can you trust him to tell the truth?
It seems that you moved this relationship really fast, before you got to know him. That that you are figuring him out you are finding that he is not boyfriend material, let alone live-in partner material.
Admit that you really wanted to find love, looked past the lying at an early stage and made a mistake. You can love someone yet know they won't make you happy.
Get out and take it slow next time.