You DID get advice and I agree with it. You will never be happy in a relationship with anyone if you don't trust him. And you will never be happy in a relationship with anyone if you try to control his behavior, thoughts and feelings by imposing rules and regulations about what he is and is not allowed to do! I feel you need to grow up a bit, become more self-aware and emotionally healthy, before you'll ever be happy and content in a relationship. If you don't trust him, let him go. If he's not what you're looking for in a bf, let him go. You cannot *make* someone be what you want him to be so that you can be happy with him -- you're causing your own frustration and unhappiness by trying to do that. It never ever works. Good luck.
I did respond to your post, but here is my reply again...Good luck,
http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlrelationsh&msg=17115.1&ctx=512
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