Why? Serious or NOT?
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| Tue, 03-18-2008 - 12:33pm |
ok, so heres the story. I am seeing this guy about 6 months now and in the beginning of the relationship he stated that he didn't want a serious relationship, that he was hurt in the past and did not want to risk getting hurt again. So we continued to see eachother and we have been on many dates, we talk everyday, and we eventually had sex about 4 months into it. We act like we are in a relationship but not labeled as a serious relationship. So since we have had sex, we have continued to have sex with eachother on a regular basis while still going out to eat, movies, etc. One night recently he came over to my house after he got off work at 5am (cause he works at night), and he usually comes over after work and stays the rest of the night and the next day together until he has to go to work that following day, well he came over and took a shower and came to bed. I thought he wanted to have sex, so I asked him if he wanted me to let him be so he could sleep and he said yes. So we just laid there and went to sleep, no sex at all. My question is why would he come over to just sleep? We are talking about a man that doesn't want t a serious relationship, and we have sex every time he stays the night with me. Why would a man waste his time? Why wouldn't he have just went home and went to bed?
My other question is this, why would a man that did not want a serious relationship call everyday? I had a long term relationship and we called eachother everyday, and I have had other casual relationships where I only heard from them once or twice a week. Why would he invest all of his time in a relationship that he doesn't take seriously? He calls everyday, makes time for me, sees me at least 3-4 times a week.
My last question is this, why is this man not affectionate? He kisses me all the time and is very affectionate during sex but after he goes on his side and goes to sleep. He kisses me everytime he leaves me and hugs me, and usually after sex I ask him if it's ok to lay on him and he says yes and I do and we go to sleep but he NEVER initiates it at all. Is this because he is not into a serious relationship? or is he just not an affectionate person? How can I help him become more affectionate?
Thanks for all your help! Any suggestions and advise would be greatly appreciated.

"he was hurt in the past and did not want to risk getting hurt again." This has to be the oldest line in the book as a reason
Hi soblue222222,
I totally agree with the advice you got from charite_99, I just wanted to welcome you to the board.
Welcome to the board soblue222222,
This guy sounds a lot like one of the guys I dated several years ago. He didn't want a serious relationship, but we saw each other everyday, he called me several times a day, and we always went out to eat or to rent a movie, he also made
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