Why is understanding men and Relationship so hard.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Why is understanding men and Relationship so hard.
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Wed, 06-29-2011 - 4:32pm

I've sat in my living room replaying all that happens in my relationship from day one until now trying to pin point where things went wrong.

I've started dating my BF 4yrs ago. We are both in law enforcement and at time can be a little stress. The beginning was great and I the feeling felt with him was a feeling like I've never felt in a relationship or man before.

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Registered: 12-22-2007

Addie, it's hard because you've made it hard.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 06-29-2011 - 10:49pm

It's unfortunate that he isn't a responsible guy but you can't make him come around & be a good dad.

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Registered: 03-09-2006
Thank for your reply, and you are right I was expecting a boy to behave and act like a man but hes just not there yet. I can understand where you coming from but, in my case trying to change him in the sense to open up to me. Maybe I should have been more clear and I do apologized for not clarifying my statement. Sometimes women when we fall in love we want to be love the same way we love a man, to be open and be expressive especially with feeling but not all men are not like many women. Some men dont like to express themselves like us women do. Yes hes disrespected me in the sense when we argued he just didn't want to face the issues that was occurring in the relationship. As for the choice of him being the father of my child as I stated it happen and due to certain medical issues I decided to proceed with the pregnancy. Some time in life certain things happen for a reason, it makes us human and now I see why it was my destiny to have my son with him. No matter what our son was not asked to be born and that's something we both agreed on that no matter what happen with us we will be the best parents to our son.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
@musilover2 thank you for your reply but My issue with him is commitment.... Is not about him not being a father to my child because he is an excellent father to my son and child support there's no need for me to go to that extreme. We have an agreement and I cant complain. He takes care of his son financially and hes a father to my son, hes there for him in every possible way. My problem is just that he doesn't want to commit because hes not ready. I cant be mad at him for that, because you cant force a person to commit. That I would love to, ofcourse because I would love to keep that structure mommy and daddy not only for us but for our son. . Im not getting any younger and yes I do have to get on with my life to find a man that will give me the commitment that I want and deserve.
Again thank you for your reply and post.
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Registered: 12-22-2007

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