Why won't he commit
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Why won't he commit
| Wed, 10-17-2007 - 12:08pm |
I will give you a little background before I ask my question. My boyfriend (we will call him Jon) and I have been together since May of 2006. We have been living together since about 2 months after that. Our relationship moved along very quickly.

Welcome to the board goddess_heffalump,
It seems like the two of you have different goals in life. You want to get married and he doesn't. Would you be happy in the relationship if you never got married? It doesn't sound like it. If not, than this isn't the right relationship for you.
It also sounds like you tend to go for guys that need help or need fixing. Like you think by helping them out in their time of need that they will in turn love you and want to marry you.
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"Jon and I have talked about marriage a little. I want to get married but he does not."
That clinches it right there. It doesn't matter why he doesn't want to get married, the fact is that the person he is is someone who is not compatible with you. If you stay with him you're not going to get a marriage. If by some miracle of God you are able to pressure him into marriage, it won't be in the context of him WANTING to marry you, he will resent you, and you will break up.
Any more time invested in this relationship is time wasted. You cannot make a man want to get married; you can only find a man who shares the same goals as you.
I'm really sorry because I know how it feels to be stuck in a relationship that won't go any further. All I can say is that the right man is out there.
Welcome to the board goddess_heffalump,
He's got the life doesn't he?
Why do you think so little of yourself?? You sound like a great person, and yet you think that the only way a man will want to be with you is if you support them financially or emotionally or whatever else they need. I think you really need to work on your self esteem, and possibly go to some counseling sessions to help you better understand why you feel this way about yourself.
You're a grown woman and mother, I'm sure you have enough life experience to understand that you