wife lessons

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Registered: 08-18-2004
wife lessons
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Wed, 08-18-2004 - 3:06am
Help! I do not know how to be a wife, much less a good, one, and my marriage is about to end ( I fear), and I want to save it! My husband is the best thing in the world for me, and I want to be good for him, like he is me!
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Registered: 09-25-2003
In reply to: pennypatch
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 5:55am
What's your idea of a wife? What's your husband's idea of a wife? What is it you/he think you are doing wrong?

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Registered: 08-04-2003
In reply to: pennypatch
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 2:03pm
Golden rule applies: Do unto others as you'd have done unto you.

Reading material:

Friendship Factor: How to Get Closer to the People You Care for, by Alan Loy McGinnis

A Couple's Guide to Communication, John Mordechai Gottman

Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman

His Needs, Her Needs by Dr. Willard F. Harley Jr

The 10 Second Kiss, Ellen Kreidman

My best to you.


Carrie

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: pennypatch
Wed, 08-18-2004 - 2:20pm
If you prioritize his wants and needs at the exact same level as you prioritize your wants and needs, then you are starting down the right track. I believe in four words as building the core foundation of self and of relationships - Integrity, Respect, Dignity and Honor. Do you have them for yourself? Do you give them freely to your husband?

You may wish to get 2 books as well:

- Relationship Rescue - Dr. Phil

- Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands - Dr. Laura

Actually the Dr. Phil website has some awesome articles and advice on relationships. Check out the sections titled: 10 Relationship Myths and Bad Spirits.