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Wife's a liar
| Tue, 04-06-2004 - 7:35am |
My wife recently told me she would include me on her list of "potential" players for the volleyball team-why I'm just on the list and not invited is another question-and she is now searching for players. I know from her e-mail that she's having some trouble finding enough players. Obviously, she doesn't really consider me an option. Now, I don't consider her an option either. The question is: Do I admit my snooping and confrom her about her team or do I just let her have her stupid volleyball team and move on to more important things? I'm thinking the latter.

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Coolas
I think this goes deeper than a volleyball team....Snooping is no good...it shows that your lines of comunication are down and you have insecurites regarding the relationship..
This may sound a little "off", but how good of a player are you? It may be just that you arent very good and she doesnt want to hurt your feelings. How much time do you two normally spend together during a regular day? It could also be that you are together do much, this would only add to it and she is craving a little "me time"...Yo didnt get too specific in your post, but these are all possiblities.Point is, you need to be honest and upfront with her...
Good luck,
Are you just venting or are you ready to do something about this situation?
Carrie
I think the issue about the volleyball team is the least of your worries. Have you two been to counseling?
I hope you can work this out. It really does sound terrible. My heart goes out to you.
Good luck,
Ivy
georgiasugarbaby@yahoo.com
1. I've told her I'm uncomfortable with her outside "relationship" and that it would be fine if either there was less of it or if I was invited.
2. I've explained that I want to either be on a team or invited to the non-volleyball functions.
3. I explained that I think she's self-centered and inconsiderate.
4. I've suggested counseling, which she rejects.
5. She says nothings going on and that all the events with her "friend" are in public. I've seen nothing overt to tell me otherwise and I have seen them when they didn't know it once and everything seemed OK. (No affectionate touching, etc.)
So, what next?
"I'm really glad you have volleyball to blow off steam, have friends, etc. This has made me realize that our relationship is growing apart, can we work on this with a weekly date, find a way to re-connect?
If she's not willing then only you can decide what you can live with and if you are willing to live with it as it is.
Carrie
I am aware of your situation and even answered a previous post from you about this. It sounds as though she's playing some kind of game with you here. The lack of open, honesty putting you on the bottom of the list is disrespectful to you. Clearly, she wants this to be a place and activity of her own and is stringing you along. You two need to have an open, honest discussion about it. You also need to explore what's really going on in your marriage. It could be that this is simply an expression of other issues she's having. (And you as well). Bring it up, let her know how it makes you feel, and let her know that you are uneasy about it and want to work out what's going on between the two of you. Without trust and honest the foundation of a relationship cannot last long.
All good wishes.
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