will this ever work??

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-30-2007
will this ever work??
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Tue, 10-30-2007 - 5:34pm

Hi everyone, I am new to this board, I spent alot of time on breaking up is hard to do last year.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 10-30-2007 - 6:08pm

Hi bellaa2007,


I understand kids coming first, but if he was still together with his ex-wife, chances are he would be willing to get a babysitter. He's setting himself up to be alone or in a limited relationship.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-30-2005
Wed, 10-31-2007 - 1:07pm

Welcome to the board bellaa2007,


Have you asked your bf when you will get to spend time with him and his son? Obviously, if you got married you would live together and you would be around his son all the time on the days when he has his son. Won't he want to prepare his son for that at some point.


It does seem like to the two of you have different goals. You want to stay at home when you have a child, but he says you need to work because of money issues.


I think in order for this to work, both of you (especially him) will have to be willing to compromise and change a little.

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