will he call?!!

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Registered: 10-12-2004
will he call?!!
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Tue, 10-12-2004 - 10:06pm
okay, i'm freaking out - i met him from time to time over the summer, but one of my friends had a crush on him so i didn't want to interfer (long story short, he wasn't interested in her and it never blossomed into anything). so he called me on a pretense, which developed into a conversation about last friday's upcoming debate and the yankee game, and he invited me over to watch both with him. Since I was already very well acquainted with him from group outings with friends (dinners, parties, etc), i didn't feel it was inappropriate in anyway to go over to his place. The night was great - we both commented on how incredibly comfortable we felt with each other, right from the outset sitting no more than a quarter of an inch apart, with feet up and chatting and watching tv and discussing politics, and giggling and eating pizza - - and then we started kissing, and then it got pretty intense - and though some key lines weren't crossed, some definitely were - and then like about 11:30 pm i said i should go home, and he insisted that i stay until midnight, which i did and we held hands in the last half hour and then it turned midnight and he said "okay, well, do you want to go?" and i said yes, and left - but we didn't talk at all about seeing each other again, and that was friday, and he said he was going away for the long weekend and had friends coming in from europe this week, but still, wouldn't he have already called by now? do you think i should have crossed those aforementioned lines? do you think he may have been discouraged by my saying i wanted to go home (many women may have decided to spend the night?) - -could this possibly have been something he just wanted for one night? it seems unfathomable? am i just going crazy?!!
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 8:38am

It sounds like he has been busy with the freinds that are in from Europe. If you are concerned, give him a call. Tell him that you know he has been busy with his company, but wanted to make sure he knew what a good time you had, and that you are looking forward to hanging out again. Then tell him to give you a call when things die down for him a bit...that way, you are letting him know that you are still interested, but putting the ball in his court now.


Good luck,


 

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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 10-13-2004 - 10:44am

First of all, you're not going crazy. Guys don't think about calling. Only WOMEN do that! Guys put that so far out of their minds that weeks could go by before they pick up a phone.


I wouldn't get too upset over him not calling yet, but if you really thought you shared something good, it couldn't hurt to call him yourself and say, "Hey, I had fun with you on Friday. Wanna come to my place and watch this week's debate?" What would you have to lose? The worst that could happen is that he'd already have plans or he'd say no. Is that all you're worried about???


Go for it, girl!