will he come back to me

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Registered: 07-14-2002
will he come back to me
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Sun, 06-08-2008 - 6:00pm
hello...i recently posted about my boyfriend and i who broke up because we were not moving forward in our relationship. after three years, i felt like we were emotionally stuck and not growing together. he
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Registered: 05-28-2008
Sun, 06-08-2008 - 10:15pm
I really dont know what he is thinking so i will just give you my imput. You both agreed that things werent progressing right? Well if thats the case and you both really are wanting this, this time apart will strengthen your relationship i think personally, I mean if it was so hard to part ways then why did he want this ??? I mean do you think he is seeing someone else or somthing?? Well I feel like men to can need time to think just like woman, I mean when you feel cornered or stuck is when you want your space, Ive learned that from my relationship im in now, my man likes his space he tells me to give him his alone time especially when he is mad at me lol ....but Id just give him space and see what happens but I wouldnt put your life on hold for him
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 06-08-2008 - 11:55pm

Hi ffechter,


Read this:


http://messageboards.ivillage.com/n/mb/message.asp?webtag=iv-rlbreaking&msg=22130.1


Depends on how the summer goes. None of us can really predict the outcome.

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Registered: 05-24-2008
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 12:09am

It's not a great sign when

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Registered: 07-14-2002
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 6:34pm
thank you for your responses. i don't understand why he needs to figure himself out. he said that because i pushed him, he then realized that he needs to be alone. but he never communicated any problems or doubts in three years. i guess i felt it somewhere deep down since i pushed. but really, we had a beautiful life together. i don't think i could have given the relationship more of myself. i tried everyday to take care of him, to let him know how much i love and value him. do you think he just took it for granted? do you think when he really loses me he will come back? i guess the hardest part is dealing with this rejection. i feel like i don't know how i could have been more loving, loyal or there for him. if he rejected it, won't every other man?
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 6:54pm

Maybe he was upset with himself for not being able to return your affection in a way that felt true to him. His love for you is not something that can be persuaded with anything than just being yourself. Don't be mad at yourself for giving it your all, in the end the failure is not you. Not every couple is meant to be together, even ones who have invested a lot of time. This guy has a lot to figure out, I imagine that this break is probably for good but I hope you are able to hold your head high and realize that you did the right things.

When you give your heart and soul to someone, it is a gift. And a gift is something you give knowing that it may not be reciprocated. Don't blame yourself for it, hearts can be mended with time. But you are suffering a loss and grieving. It's okay to feel sad.

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Registered: 07-14-2002
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 8:41pm
why do you say this break up is probably for good? don't you think that he will realize how good I was to him and that no other girl compares? don't you think he will feel my loss and miss me and realize how much he loves me? don't you think there is a chance for that?
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Registered: 07-14-2002
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 8:57pm

i sent my ex a book called "She Wants a Ring--and I Don't Wanna Change a Thing : How a Man Can Overcome His Fears of Commitment and Marriage" by James Barron. It got really good reviews.


DO YOU THINK THIS WILL HELP?????????????????????????????????????


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Registered: 02-05-2007
Mon, 06-09-2008 - 9:34pm

If he was sending you books, pushing you do to something you don't