Will he ever do the anniversary thing?
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| Mon, 06-04-2007 - 4:43pm |
I'm married and have been seeing a married man for the past 4 years. He tells me he is in love with me and I am in love with him, too. Every year when our anniversary comes around, I mention how I want to acknowledge it and do something do celebrate with him. He's usually busy and says that he wants to do something better than a lunch or dinner, but never pusues the anniversary issue. We don't get to celebrate any other holiday together, so it's important to me that we at least have this one to celebrate. Since it recently became the date of year 4 and all he did was give me a card, I've been sad. I need for him to acknowledge it in another way like a dinner or lunch which I will gladly pay for, or if he chooses not to celebrate it with me, it seems like our relationship to him is just like a series of one night stands and that hurts.
Should I stop seeing him?

YES you should stop seeing him, but not because he won't acknowledge your "anniversary", but because you're married.
You may want to check out the affair support board. You'll get little support or suggestions here on how to conduct the betrayal of your spouse and the breaking of your marriage vows.
Welcome to the board vcandles,
Don't be sorry for posting here. I think the other poster was just suggesting that you might find the other board helpful. I agree with the other poster that you should stop seeing him. He is married. If your relationship was really important to him he would get divorced and be with you.
I think the question for you is why have you had a relationship with a married man for four years. When it seems clear you want a relationship that can be acknowledged and celebrated.
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Hi vcandles,
On this board, there are lots of people trying to save their relationships and/or marriages.