Will he ever marry me????

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Will he ever marry me????
2
Thu, 02-26-2004 - 1:31pm
My *boyfriend*, whom I have been living with for 1.5 years, asked me to marry him a year-and-a-half-ago. I accepted along with the ring he gave me. The problem is, he doesn't really want to tie the knot --legally. We've bought a house together, and a car, and I want to finalize our relationship with marriage -the natural thing to do. He says he wants to marry too but will never finalize plans or set a date with me. I feel that he's just appeasing me but when it comes down to it, that he doesn't really want to marry.

Here's another thing... he refers to and introduces me to people as his 'wife'. His justification is that we are 'married by agreement' and are committed to one another. Well yes, that's true, but we are not *really* married.

I'm in my forties and have never been married and he's in his fifties. He was married twice and divorced nearly three years ago.

Please help --is this guy stringing me along? Am I being taken for a fool? (Why buy the cow when the milk is free?) Should I just relax and see how things play out over time? Or, should I forget about marriage and realize he's not the one?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-15-2003
Fri, 02-27-2004 - 2:53am
hello, I hope I can help. I have read in books that when a man makes excuses to get married that it only means that he does not want to marry you. Sorry if that sounds harsh. I am engaged too, living together, no date or anything - I really don't know.

good luck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2003
Wed, 03-03-2004 - 8:27am

I guess I will never understand why this is a such an issue for so many people.


He asked you to marry him, he is buying