Will I ever get past the betrayal?
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Will I ever get past the betrayal?
| Tue, 05-11-2004 - 11:38am |
I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and living together for 5, I love him very much but he has hurt me so bad in the past that it is so hard to get over it. We have been to counseling and it helped for a while but after we stop going those feelings come back. Im attracted to him but its so hard to be intimate, I dont even become excited by him. I don't want to lose him, How do i let go of the past? Whenever something new comes up it reminds me of prior incidents. Its so hard and I feel like im really putting a strain on myself. Im sure as far as he knows all is well. I fell like I have been so good to him all these years, by his side through everything, loyal and loving and have not gotten the same from him. I feel so betrayed. I come from divorce parents I have no idea what a healthy relationship is suppose to be. any advice???
Edited 5/12/2004 12:57 pm ET ET by kell7
Edited 5/12/2004 12:57 pm ET ET by kell7

you don't sound stupid, you sound like someone unwilling to admit that the person they love isn't the right person for them. you said you broke up before and tried to date other people... how about breaking up with him and NOT dating other people? if you don't know what a good relationship is, try forging a good relationship with yourself first. THEN maybe you'll find someone who knows how to be as good to you as you are to yourself.