will my man cheat?

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Registered: 08-26-2004
will my man cheat?
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Thu, 08-26-2004 - 12:07pm
i have been dating tony for the past 5 months or so. We became very close very quickly, which resulted in me moving in with him. I fell in love with tony despite the fact that he has a daughter in a different state. within the 3rd month, i noticed that tony was becoming more and more distant towards me. i asked what was wrong repeatedly, with no response. He finally wrote me a letter telling me that he walked around with a frown all the time because he hadn't seen his daughter in a year, and he missed her and needed to see her. I understand that, so in a couple of days, he'll be leaving to see her. The problem arose when I asked him where he would be staying. He told me he would be staying with his baby's mother. what do u guys think? I havn't confronted him about how much that bothers me, i dont know if i should im so confused

to answer some of the questions that have been asked so far, I havn't a clue what the details of their relationship were. I do know that they were involed in a serious one, but they couldn't find a good living situation. But he never told me much more than that. I dont even know how to approach him with this without coming off as jealous or suspicious, but I do need answers. I too wonder why he cannot stay in a hotel, but i just do not know how to confront him about this situation.


Edited 8/26/2004 4:47 pm ET ET by alipooh00

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Registered: 07-20-2004
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 1:58pm
Has he ever told you what kind of relationship he had with his baby's mother? That is impotant. If they had a fling and ended up with a baby thats one thing but if they had a full on relationship, that is another thing. Why all of a sudden is the mother letting him see his kid. You need background.
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Registered: 08-04-2003
Thu, 08-26-2004 - 4:30pm
In addition to those good questions asked in the last response, I would also ask, how long has he be separated from the child's mother? Does the mother still have feelings for him? Does he still have feelings for the mother? Is there a reason he's not getting a hotel for his visit?


Carrie