Will the rift continue?

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Registered: 06-10-2007
Will the rift continue?
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Sun, 06-10-2007 - 12:50pm
I have been dating this guy for over a year now and we both come from very different backrounds when it comes to how we were raised. My parents are very supportive and are helping me get through college. His parents followed the policy that they only have to car e fore their kid till he is 18. They kicked him out and do not support him in the least. He has to work very hard for everything that he earns. He is not doing so well financially right now but he fighting hard to get into college. I love him dearly but this has caused a rift between us. He always acts very jealous of me and it has been very poisonous to our relationship. Our views are fairly different. He sees the world how it is and I see the world how it should be he claims. It does not bother me that he is not well off but it bothers me that our ways of being raised are affecting us. Is this rift only going to grow? Or is it possible to fix it? Also due to he lack of support he had to move away from me for about 6 months when he promised he would come back in 3 months. He also claimed that he would never have to leave in the first place. And now he is saying he will be in the city in which I go to college attending college in the fall. There is a good chance that he will but I am scared to get my hoped up. If he does not end up where he claims to be should I end it? I know that it may not be completely his fault but I don't know if I am made to be in a relationship in which I have to question all of these things. I am always stressed about his well being. I need advice!
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 2:32pm

Welcome to the board sisterjack,


It's really hard to maintain a relationship when there are different values, standards and expectations.

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 06-10-2007 - 8:49pm

I agree with cl-itwinflame.

The first thing which popped into my head was the issue of childraising. I can't even begin to imagine the arguments you'd have about how to raise your children.

And I also agree that his resentment of you and the advantages you've had will not go away.

I believe that the main ingredient for a happy, successful relationship is sharing the same morals and values. Think long and hard about your future with him.

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Registered: 06-05-2007
Mon, 06-11-2007 - 12:18pm

resentment and the rift will continue to build...

wish i had some advice for you. what are you going to do about it?