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Wined and Dined
| Thu, 08-21-2008 - 11:05pm |
Okay i met this new guy and he is amazing sweet respectful and cares about me. Now i have dated some class A bad boys. But he isnt like that

What exactly turned him off? the fact that you paid for his ticket or that you want to be wined and dined?
>>Is it wrong for me to want to be spoiled i want him to wine and dine me!! Make me feel amazing i dont want to come out of pocket.<<
I suppose if he's wealthy, it's OK to expect this.
Was this a true date or just two friends going to a movie?
Why not simply tell him the truth.
Did these bad boys pay for you all of the time?
You each bought a ticket and he bought you food. So that still makes you ahead if you want to keep a dating checkbook.
If you expect guys to pay all of the time
<> He is not your daddy. Jeez... You have been on one date with the guy, you barely know him why would he spoil someone he barely knows and why would you expect that?
<< i want him to wine and dine me!!>> Does he know that? Did you let him know that before he can date you that he needs to fork over his money because you think you "deserve" to be wined and dined like a princess? If not, then that is your issue. You need to explain that to him so he can decide if he can meet your needs....I wouldn't count on him thinking it is worth it to date you...I wouldn't.
<< Make me feel amazing i dont want to come out of pocket.>> Why do you need anyone to make you feel amazing and worthy? You should feel that way about yourself first before thinking wining and dining and spoiling will make that true. It is called self-esteem for a reason. And if you actually thought you were "all that", you wouldn't need someone to validate you.
When I am in a relationship I pay sometimes and sometimes I don't..its a give and take. A lot of first dates I will go dutch, don't have a problem with it. If I ask I pay
Let this guy go so that he can find someone that likes him for himself and not what he can give/spend on them. I am sure there are enough shallow guys out there that would be a better match for you and have plenty of money to spend on you, but don't think just because they will do that for you that they will be sweet, respectful and care about you.
Apparently, the OP has a BF ... see posts on other boards ... they were 'on a break' when she posted this.