Wishy washy man.

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Registered: 12-17-2007
Wishy washy man.
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Mon, 12-17-2007 - 6:16pm
What is the best way to handle this guy?

He said last night i was trying to push our relationship forward, and im
not, but if hes going to keep worrying about if hes making enough time for
me and saying things about how since he might be moving a distance away in
a few months and he needs to decide what to "do" and saying things about
how I like him more than he likes me...and that im such a nice person that
i make him feel mean.....
And that he wants a commited relationship but his heart and head dont
match up and he doesnt "know". Thats his new favorite phrase, I "dont
know".

That just turns me off and makes me want to leave.

I brought that up, and said if he isnt feelin' it we can just end it on
good terms and say we tried.

But then he said that wasnt fair.

Im lost and tired of him being lovey dovey one minute and asking me not to
leave him and then the next minute acting like he doesnt care at all.
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Registered: 09-30-2005
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 12:24pm
Sorry, but to me it doesn't appear that he is ready to be in a serious committed relationship.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 2:41pm

Welcome to the board julessmiles,


Sounds like you will have to be the one to make

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 12-18-2007 - 3:06pm

He is confused and in the process, he's confusing you. Mixed messages are a great way of keeping a person off kilter, the way you feel now. Ask yourself why you're staying in this relationship? You don't need his permission to leave. If he's playing with your head, teasing you and causing you to lose clarity and balance, why in the world stay around?


Best wishes,