At wit's end? What does she want from me
Find a Conversation
At wit's end? What does she want from me
| Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:32pm |
My wife and I of 9 years have had 1 year of very emotionally charged marital turmoil after signing a mediation agreement.

Hi manoffaith,
It's easier to follow your situation if you reply and add to a previous post instead of adding new posts. Here's your previous posts so others can catch up on your situation:
should i stay or should i go?
A little too late, a little too far gone
clever and talks alot to twist my mind
As nicely as possible, she wants YOU to make the decision and say it's over that way she can blame you for not waiting.
This is all about what your wife wants. What do you want? She is confused and goes back and forth endlessly. That can make you or anyone else crazy. You have to get in touch with who "you" are, where you stand, what you need and what works and does not work for "you". There's no point in trying to be a yo yo to please her. It will end up badly. Decide what you need for a relationship to work for you and go about creating that. If you feel you'll be better with a legal separation agreement, go for it. I suggest you get some counseling so you can understand your own self better and learn how not to be manipulated by her. On the one hand she says she loves you, and she may feel that may, but love is not just a feeling. It consists of healthy, consistent, considerate actions which take the other person's need and feelings into account. She may not be able to do that now.
Get the help you need. Decide what will make you happy and healthy and base your choices around that.
Best wishes,
Save Your Relationship: The 21 Basic Laws Of Successful Relationships
Change The Way Women Think About Men and Find Out What Men Really Think About Relationships
It's A New Day With Dr Shoshanna - Wed. 2-3 EST.
My wife blindsided me one day before she said she was going to a concert for me to pick up kids from school and take them to their activities just three days after our family vacay to walt disney world.
She, she, she, she.
<< My wife is hurtful emotionally and I was wondering what motivation or reasoning she would have to say things like 'are you afraid to lose your wife' and 'I deserve to have my own identity and life separate from you until you change and I must break you down, and that is why I refer to your past behaviors as the dealbreaker and you can earn it back'.
starbuck is right.