womanizer

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Registered: 10-05-2004
womanizer
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Tue, 10-05-2004 - 3:39pm
Hi!

I'm 23 and have been dating a 29 year old for about 5 months. When getting into this relationship I knew that my bf had many more sexual partners that myself (I have had 3) but I never knew really how many. This past weekend, I was fishing for some socks in his sock drawer and a little folded piece of paper fell out of the sock I picked up. Upon reading it, I realised it was his list of all the women he had slept with.... its HUGE! like 40-50 women!

Now this is obviously a guy that is a womanizer... my question is - do I confront him about this? because I really shouldn't have read the folded paper... but on the other hand his sexual conquests shock me.

arg, what do I do?? I love this stupid man....

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Registered: 01-29-2003
In reply to: green_bumblebee
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 5:18pm
Be careful of STD's If it is in the past leave it in the past. You are with him now....only go forward. If you keep thinking about it you will make yourself go crazy
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In reply to: green_bumblebee
Tue, 10-05-2004 - 5:33pm
I wouldn't tell him that you found the paper, but just maybe ask him how many women he has been with and see what he says and then just go from there. I am also 23 dating a 29 yr old and I know that he has been with more people than me, but I am too scared to know the numbers. He said that he used to go out "trolling" when he was single, and everyone always thought he was going to be a bachelor for life, but we have been together for 7 months and are moving in together. I am the first girl that he has ever lived with. I am just accepting the fact that he has been with alot of women and that it is his past and I am the present and future. Unfortunately, we can't change what they did in the past. Good luck.
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Registered: 09-26-2004
In reply to: green_bumblebee
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 3:03am
Womanizers often make the best lovers. That's the good part. The bad part is that it could be a sexual addiction and that means there is a darn good chance he will cheat. I have been repeating one thing on lots of threads here and that's the fact that by having so many partners his chance of being exposed to aids is higher. The chances of a man catching it from a woman is not as high as it is for a woman to get it from a man. Something like the list in a drawer sounds like he left it there with a subconsious wish for you to see it. Maybe he wants to come clean on a self consious level. Wether you bring it up or not is your decision but either way, I would get checked for STD's and aids. Love is a wonderful thing but without your health you can't really enjoy it.
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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: green_bumblebee
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 9:06am
Periodically check the list to see if he adds your name to it. If/when he does, it might be a sign that he is ready to move on to his next conquest. Iri
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: green_bumblebee
Wed, 10-06-2004 - 10:24am

Well, to begin with, he's not stupid, just someone who's had many partners. There are some questions you need to ask yourself now.