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Wondering what to do?
| Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:58am |
Maybe that is not the right title, because I think if I am honest with myself I know what to do.
| Tue, 06-10-2008 - 11:58am |
Maybe that is not the right title, because I think if I am honest with myself I know what to do.
If he doesnt give you want you want and need from a partner...then he needs to hear about it, maybe in therapy with you.
"He has not officially moved back in but he will not leave the house, and I am miserable."
Let me make sure I understand this: he will not commit to the marriage, but he insists on living in the house--is that correct?
I agree that you need to continue in therapy, because your pleaser personality is blinding you to something: Your husband lived apart from you for a year, and now expects you to act warmly toward him so he can make a decision as to whether or not he wants to continue to be married to you.
Welcome to the board stressedandstuck,
It floors me how well he is at turning this around on you, YOU aren't trying now that he wants to come back, though he went over the 6 month mark, YOU didn't lose weight when he wanted you too (like you can do that on command) and now he wants what he wants, what he can't have.