work a holic boyfriend

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Registered: 07-14-2006
work a holic boyfriend
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Sat, 04-26-2008 - 1:38pm

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we have 2 kids. We live together and we used to do things with eachother all of the time untill we had our second child,he is 7 months now. My boyfriend has 2 jobs, he works 13 hours a day, he comes home and he is tired, which is

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Registered: 02-20-2007
Sat, 04-26-2008 - 5:45pm

I'm not trying to criticize you, but I do want to understand... When marriage is important to you, why did you have children with this guy before having that commitment?? Again I'm not chastising you but it's so important to choose a man to have children with based on what your plans are for the future and whether or not he is going to fulfill them. I don't think having kids out of wedlock is the worst thing in the world, but marriage in our society is almost an essential prerequisite to having kids, and I don't know why you went "out of order" in your life if marriage is something you really want.

If you have been together 5 years and have two children together, it's time for him to bite the bullet and be your husband or for you to take off. I hate to say that but there is nothing that could happen to make him more ready than he is now.

I'm sorry but I think that working so often and not making time for you, coupled with his desire to stay single, is his way of distancing himself from you and the kids and I don't think that will change when you're working. You may have to decide if this is the best guy to spend a future with.

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Registered: 02-05-2007
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 12:01am

Welcome to the board mn9502,


To get your needs met, you may have to meet his first.

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 4:42am

"My boyfriend has 2 jobs, he works 13 hours a day, he comes home and he is tired, which is

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Registered: 07-14-2006
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 11:28am

He works two jobs to make enough money to take care of the kids, pay bills, etc.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sun, 04-27-2008 - 7:15pm

>>He works two jobs to make enough money to take care of the kids, pay bills, etc.<<


mn9502, to me, the term 'workaholic' implies someone who chooses work over social/home life.