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| Thu, 03-04-2004 - 7:18pm |
If a guy is really consumed with work (his regular day job) and is trying to start up his own side business as well, how will he find time to date? If the right girl comes along will he make time for her to have a relationship or will he have to take care of matters first before he can even think of having a relationship and just occasionally hang out with friends just to relieve the stress of his everyday life if the opportunity comes up?
Thanks for your thoughts.
Thanks for your thoughts.

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Carrie
You are spending a lot of time thinking about him and trying to analyze his emails and why he is turning you down. It really doesn't matter does it? The fact remains that he is not taking the bait, or accepting your invitiations and he is not asking you out or asking for a rain check for when things get less hectic.
Please move on. Aren't their other guys around that you know?
What you see is what you get. I assume you're unhappy with the amount of time he gives you since you're posting here about it. Well....accept what he has to give and be satisfied with it AS IS or move on. If this isn't working for you AS IS then it's not the right relationship for you. Period.
What's so hard to understand about that?
You can sit around and hope all you want. But happiness and contentment are not found through hope....they are found through making wise choices for yourself. Hope that light dawns for you soon.
Yes, there are other guys around and I'm not interested in them the same way I am interested in this current guy. I mean some of these guys that I'm turning down are not that bad. They are very accomplished--vascular neurologist, electro-cardiologist, patent lawyers, corporate lawyers, and etc. And it has been hard to find new guys. I've been disappointed everytime my friends and I go out. We go to many different places such as bars, alumni networking associations, professional associations, social gatherings, charity events, happy hours and etc. There is just something about this current guy that I like and I don't know why?
Thanks for your thoughts and concern. I have been wasting a lot of energy figuring this one out.
Maybe it is the chase. You don't know him well at all and so that gives you the opportunity to put him up on a pedastal. If you don't know him, then you can create the perfect him in your fantasies.
'every time I decide to give up on this current guy he comes around knocking on my door again'
How? Does he ask you out? Does he tell you that he has feelings for you? In your posts it seems that he doesn't come to you but that you go to him.
Do you want companionship or a partner who's "accomplished"? Do you want status, money, a family, lots of together time, being on the top of his priority list? You can't have it all, you have to decide what the most important things are that will bring you happiness and contentment. It all depends on what YOU are looking for in a relationship.
And chances are, if this WAS *it* for you, then you'd BE happy and content with it AS IS ...and you'd feel no need to ask all your friends for advice or ask strangers on an anonymous message board for opinions about it.
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