Working in 2 cities, where do we live?
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| Thu, 09-06-2007 - 4:02pm |
Hi,
I was wondering if someone could offer me advice. I am in a long-term relationship (7 years) and we have been seeing each other through school, college and university and we now both have full-time jobs.
I'm 22 and he is 24. We made plans to move out after he had got his first job from finishing a course at University.
The thing is he started a new job (in May) which is great, but we work in 2 cities 15 miles apart from each other. At the moment I live about half way between where we work and with my parents and he lives nearer to where I work in with his parents.
We have similiar working hours but he has to get up early (5am in the morning) and gets home later than me on evening and we both rely on public transport (though if I pass my driving test soon I might be thinking of getting a car).
So he said to me recently that he is planning on moving out, which I can understand entirely, but then he said he wants to live in the city centre so that he is virtually on the door step.
The problem is that the areas he chose are not very nice ones and its going to force me to get up at the times he does now and get home really late, then having to pay extra to get to another county and him having a 10 minute walk there and back everyday.
To me it did not seem very fair, I thought it was more reasonable to look for something where we were both able to get to work easier and fairer but he does not want the hassile.
I suggested an area that we both like but he instantly threw the idea back at me when I mentioned it and said it was too far out of the way. So I agreed to look into other nearby areas but everywhere I suggested he said is too far and he only wants to live in the centre.
We had quite a fall out about this because I know for definate I don't want to live in the centre, I didn't know what else to suggest and I don't really see a future. We argued so much about the subject that we have stopped talking about it and I'm currently just trying not to think about it.
I feel that its forcing me to go our own seperate ways and I'm going to have to finish with him once he has made the move. Its something I don't really want and has come as quick a shock to me.
If anyone has advice I would be really grateful.
Thank you
Mous32

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