Worry or not?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-08-2004
Worry or not?
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 11:30am
Hi my boyfriend of 8 years just took a promotion to another state. He has wanted me to move with him but I am reluctant. He has told me about a co-worker who is flirtatious and sits on his desk, etc. I recently found phone records of conversations they have had outside of work. He is emphatically denying stating that they are friends and she was talking about her personal problems. He states that she would say things like I hope she moves to be with you and you all are ok. I'm very upset and do not believe that it did not go further, any thoughts?
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: elaina05
Tue, 06-08-2004 - 11:37am
Dating for EIGHT YEARS? To what end? Are you hoping for marriage and family? If so, there is no way I would follow any man to another state unless he was already my husband. He should be COURTING you - following you around - not vice-versa.

However, if a sacramental committment doesn't matter to you, move only if there are advantages OTHER than being with your boyfriend (better climate, better economy, better quality of life, etc.).