worst breakup ever

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Registered: 05-23-2004
worst breakup ever
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 9:29pm
For first time, when breaking up with someone, I actually explained to them why I could not move on with the relationship. Just so happens, my ex was totally abusive, and now I have issues with control and jealousy.

I posted some time ago, that my now, new, ex-boyfriend, starting to act all jealous about my travel, and he was demanding that I not go. Well, long story short, it was the last straw, because I told him I had issues with jealousy, and his behavior really freaked me out.

The response was worse than I could've imagined, and he accused me of just being too sensitive. He totally did not get it. So then, when I disappeared for a day, and he called me like a million times, asking me why I had cut him off that day, and where am I and all this stuff.

I said I needed a cooling off period, and he proceeded to tell me how sweat the little things and so on.

I just got angry that he was dismissing my feelings, and what turned into 1 issue, became 10, as I explained to him how he treats me like a second class citizen, always making rude and condescending remarks, about how I work hard, for a woman, etc.. things that really get me mad.

Finally I just said, that these the issues, and how condescending he is towards me, and how I can not deal with it.

He went on to point out how jealous and abusive I am, (I was like what???) and went on to say all this stuff he did, and all this money he spent on me, and this and that. (the money was on us, restaurants and all that)

I was just so taken aback. Lesson learned. Never try to teach an abuser about his behavior. Just run, and disappear.