worth it or not???

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Registered: 05-28-2004
worth it or not???
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Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:11pm
im 23 years old and for the past month or so had been keeping in touch with this guy i used to bump into sometimes...we exchanged telephone numbers...got messaging...and a few days ago he asked me if i wanted to meet up with him for a while...so i agreed...and we had a fabulous evening! it really was great...you know the feeling you get when an evening has gone really well and sparkly! anyway he walked me home...and at the door we said good night..with him saying that he hoped he would see me again soon...i said sure and gave gim a goodbye peck (not even a kiss) on his lips. i went up to my room..and two minutes later get a call from him asking if he could speak to me...so i let him in and he starts off by saying that he had not been honest with me...he said that it was very obvious that he was attracted to me...and that he was worried that after what he told me, everything else that he had said would also seem like a lie...i asked him straight off if he had a girlfriend and he said yes he did....he apologised and said that he should have told me sooner:( i smiled it off and said that it was alright,,,

i really liked him...and even though i know we weren't 'in' anything together i feel really hurt. he wants to remain friends...what i cant understand is why he even bothered to ask me out in the first place when he knew it was for absolutely nothing...please please do help...im really confused...
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Registered: 05-25-2004
Fri, 05-28-2004 - 9:37pm
There is one word for what to do... "NEXT!"

This means NEXT CANDIDATE - in other words, time to move on.

You did nothing wrong - it is not about you - it is about him not giving you the behavior and treatment you deserve - like asking you out on a formal date, telling the truth and treating you like a lady.

You must accept nothing less or you will only have heartache.

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Registered: 07-31-2003
Sat, 05-29-2004 - 11:06pm
hey there -- just wanted to let you know that I responded to your post regarding this issue on Relationships in

 

-amy-    "CL-fiesty"

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Registered: 04-02-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 7:06am

i agree with the other post. this is HIS bad - not yours. but! you need to MOVE ON from him, if you accept his behavior, if you accept any of his explanations/excuses/justifications - you are setting yourself up for REAL trouble.


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Registered: 01-05-2004
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 10:17pm
I would not trust this guy. If he's dating you before he even has the decendy to break up with his CURRENT girlfriend he obviously has somr personality traits that make him an undesirable boyfriend. He lied to you. He's lying to his girlfriend (don't you think she would be hurt if she knew?). And he's expressed a willingness to cheat. To you want a boyfriend like that? NO. That is exactly what you'll get if you go out with him.

Walk away before this gets worse for you.

Ivy

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