Worthy of trust?
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Worthy of trust?
| Wed, 04-11-2007 - 2:29pm |
Hi! I've been in a 3 1/2 year relationship but after the 1st year we broke up but never stopped seeing each other. We kept the same relationship but without the commitment and a year later I found out he had another girlfriend (which was official) from his office and his neighbor, when I found out I broke it off but he was always present promising he would brake it off with the other girl I believed him and continued with him for another year but kept catching him in some occasions with the girl from his office. After a year like this I started to see someone else and when he found out he came back to me and promised to change and never do it again, I believed him (again)with the condition that if I found out that if he was in the same place as her I would leave him. We got back together, he told his family and friends so I would see that he gave me my place as his girlfriend but 4 month after this (which he hadn't even gone out with guy friends), he went out to a party and did not take me saying that only men would be there. A week later the girl from his office called me to tell me that it was her birthday and he sent her flowers and the party he had gone to days before she and a lot of her friends were present and since she had had a lot to drink he escorted her home and spent the night with her, I found out about the party and the flowers were true but he denied spending the night with her (obviously). Does he deserve to be trusted and give him another chance? I am 30 years old and I don't want to continue loosing my time, do you think I am losing my time?

Welcome to the board beckyfd,
Personally, I'd dump him.
Yes, I think you are losing your time. He lied to you again, after getting back together and really hoping it would be different. It's pretty clear he can't be trusted. Sometimes there are behavior patterns that just repeat and repeat. Seems like he's involved in that. Without trust, you shouldn't waste your time in a relationship. If you can't trust someone, if they lie, then there is no basis for a healthy, constructive relationship. If I were you, I'd face the facts clearly and make a healthy choice for myself.
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Thank you,
I guess I really know what I have to do, it's just been really hard to actually do it.
Thank you,
I guess I really know what I have to do, it's just been really hard to actually do it.
Thank you,
I guess I really know what I have to do, it's just been really hard to actually do it.