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| Thu, 05-10-2007 - 10:13pm |
Often, when my bf and I get out of the car to walk into someplace, he will start walking and not wait for me to catch up. When I complain about him walking in front of me he says I walk too slow and he just can't walk that slowly (He is considerably taller then I am). But he is really not walking any faster than I am--just a few feet ahead. He walks in the door ahead of me and often continues to walk in front of me unless I catch up to him.
I feel this is a sign of disrespect. When I complain about it he will do better for a while, but eventually he'll start doing it again. He also will make a sarcastic remark about not waiting on me when we are in a situation where it is obviously not practical (like if he's carrying something heavy).
What do you all think?

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Yes, it does bother me because I feel he is showing disrespect by walking in front of me. Isn't that a tradition in some cultures where women are viewed as less important than men? I guess that is why it bothers me. I feel he is running off and leaving me. When he does that I tend to hang back even more to see how long it takes him to turn around and look for me.
I knew this bothered me. I just wanted some other opinions. Isn't that what these message boards are for?
Hi Lani
I too have this problem. My BF respects women and me very much, but still he will walk ahead of me and yes it bothers me. I too will drop even further back.
One day we were at a Hockey game and it felt like he was running ahead of me all night. I was really pissed. We went for a cig where you had to walk down like 8 flights of stairs and that is hard. Well he was a flight ahead of me and said come on I said go ahead I will catch up with you. So he went ahead, then this guy walked up besides me and started talking to me, as we went out the door he asked me if I wanted a cig. My BF was standing there and grabed my arm and told the guy no she doesnt need a cig and pulled me away. I told my BF thats what you get for not waiting up for me and also I told him how it bothered me and since that day it has stopped.
So I guess what I am trying to say is if you are left behind try to flirt and get another guys attention and see if he doesnt wait for you from now on.
Good Luck
Sherrygirl
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