If I were in your position, I would probably not give up the good relationship for the potential unknown--the only things you have said about the new guy are that he makes more money & is smarter.
This isn't giving up one thing for another thing.
very good advice! I can;t add to that other than to say, sometimes being alone is a gift that a lot never appreciate. Independence is amazing, not having to report in or deal with anothers moods etc
At 41, you don't have time?
Sorry but I'm 54 & I wouldn't think that I'm too old to be alone and do the things that I want to do and that I have to latch on to just any guy just to have someone--in fact I think the opposite.
I'm jumping on the bandwagon too - at 48
Yes; I dont think 50 is old enough to be settling.. I am almost 58 and at this point I have no man but I would settle to a degree if I had to. Not the deal breakers but at some point I have to be realistic.
In saying that I have a neighbor though who is over 60 and she has been married to a nut job of a man for 25 years. She wont ever divorce him but I look at her and think wow she could still have some good years left and she wasting them on this nut job... He is controlling and verbally abusive and wont let her have any friends and monitors her all the time.. she told me she wont leave him and its not financial.. she would be set for her last days and she could have a nice life but she doesnt want it..so I think if she had one last day she is going to spend it with this nut.. How sad that is to me..
So yes life is short and why spend it unhappy and miserable even if its just one day..