Would you give up a good relationship in the hope of something better?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2008
Would you give up a good relationship in the hope of something better?
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Tue, 03-06-2012 - 9:59am

I'm 50.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

If I were in your position, I would probably not give up the good relationship for the potential unknown--the only things you have said about the new guy are that he makes more money & is smarter.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009

This isn't giving up one thing for another thing.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008

Hi tewey2008,

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011

very good advice! I can;t add to that other than to say, sometimes being alone is a gift that a lot never appreciate. Independence is amazing, not having to report in or deal with anothers moods etc

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Registered: 03-24-2003

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-20-2009

At 41, you don't have time?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-28-1999

Sorry but I'm 54 & I wouldn't think that I'm too old to be alone and do the things that I want to do and that I have to latch on to just any guy just to have someone--in fact I think the opposite.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-21-2011

I'm jumping on the bandwagon too - at 48

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008

Juliasuk,

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-02-2008

Yes; I dont think 50 is old enough to be settling.. I am almost 58 and at this point I have no man but I would settle to a degree if I had to. Not the deal breakers but at some point I have to be realistic.

In saying that I have a neighbor though who is over 60 and she has been married to a nut job of a man for 25 years. She wont ever divorce him but I look at her and think wow she could still have some good years left and she wasting them on this nut job... He is controlling and verbally abusive and wont let her have any friends and monitors her all the time.. she told me she wont leave him and its not financial.. she would be set for her last days and she could have a nice life but she doesnt want it..so I think if she had one last day she is going to spend it with this nut.. How sad that is to me..

So yes life is short and why spend it unhappy and miserable even if its just one day..

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