Would you risk it all?
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Would you risk it all?
| Thu, 04-15-2004 - 12:50pm |
In a relationship regardless of time spent if you knew your partener was in pain and closed you off would you take the opertunity to find out what is wrong. Even if the method is wrong itself. To explain this question is I was dating a girl for 6 years who in our last 6 months cost me $15,000 to have her quit school blaming me for her choose of school while I was/am trying to join the army and have no care what she did with her life as long as she was happy. Now after the failing of that relationship I moved back to where I came from and 7 months later I was setup with a girl by a friend of mine who knew I wasn't looking for just a 'good time'. And in a months time she told me she loved me and I said nothing I would just change the subject as I was willing to date but not ready for love, too soon. She stuck with me when she asked me about that and I told her exactly that. Another month went by and I finialy felt safe saying yes I love you too. Well one month later she closes herself off from me, hides her feelings and avoids the question of what is wrong. Well one day (I have a bad computer) she wasn't logged out properly of her e-mail and when I clicked on my mail log in button it auto logged me in as her. And I seen a couple of e-mails from her ex boyfriend all dated for aroung the time the problems started so I took a chance I didn't want to be screwed around on and I was feel desperate to find out what is wrong. What surprized me was not that she was trying to get back with him but that after that I felt calm because I knew what was wrong and left it to her in secret to decide whether or not she wanted me. Hey atleast I knew to expect it if anything happened (oh yeah he lives on the other end of the country so it would be a little odd if she took off). Now I am going to start a poll and everyone that reads this I would like to take part in. The question is know full well that this is personal space. Would you take the chance to find out what is wrong with someone who taught you to love again?
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| Thu, 04-15-2004 - 6:40pm |
Just ask her. How can she trust you if you are invading her privacy. Also how tight is the relationship if she is leaving you wondering and not being upfront? I understand your desire to check up on her, but the direct approach would likely be best.
