You think YOUR man's hard to read.....

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Registered: 06-08-2004
You think YOUR man's hard to read.....
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Tue, 06-08-2004 - 2:05pm
Hi all -

Need some good advice. Here's the deal. I've been dating a wonderful guy for almost a year. I'm a single mom and he's accepted my situation completely. He's gorgeous, smart, and hilariously sarcastic. Soooo....here's the problem. I feel like I am dating a rock at times. The most romantic thing he's ever done for me is bring me one flower...and that was for Valentine's Day! He seems to be committed - we're pretty much inseparable - and talks about the future using the word "us," but beyond that, I have no idea how he feels. And believe me, I've asked....I always get to hear what I want to hear, that he cares about me and all of that wonderful stuff - but only when I ask. Which I hesitate to do much anymore - who really wants to fish for compliments? At first, I was sure I was falling madly in love with him - and I do still feel very strongly - but his hesitation in this respect is kind of making things....well...blah. He can be insecure about discussing relationship issues, and is one to take a request from me as an indication that he's not making me happy - or worse, that I don't want to be in the relationship. He is an awesome catch, my family and friends adore him, and I can really see a future for us. However, I need a little romance - and I need to express that to him in no uncertain terms without hurting his feelings or making him run for the hills. I'm sure that he'll try to make me happy, no matter what, but how to express that in a way a typical guy can understand?

Any ideas? THANKS!!!!

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Registered: 08-04-2003
Wed, 06-09-2004 - 3:19pm
Read Dr Phil's book, Relationship Resuce. It has 'tests' to answer to help you define what you need and want in a relationship and how to talk about it with your partner. Maybe read it with him.


Carrie