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| Tue, 03-02-2004 - 10:24pm |
I'm new here and this is long... so I thank anyone who reads this and I really appreciate any comments.
Edited 3/2/2004 11:59:39 PM ET by tko16

"Here's my delemmia. Were older and although I can't imagion being without him he's more like family and a friend than a mate." Have you been with anyone else? Also, I think you solved your problem when you say he's like family than a mate. You can't have a mate like that it simply does not work.
"We don't have children, and sometimes although I'm not completlely sure if we'll be together, I want to have a child with him so that way we will always have a bond of love together that noone can break., on the other hand I don't know." That's not a good answer. Please don't bring a child into this world as a link to stay in contact with him. A child is born out of a love between two people wishing to make a family together. You do not form a bond through a child for an unbreakable connection with this guy, sorry.
If you are that uncomfortable with him and curious about life outside him then you can still go find your true destiny. Don't worry about what he'll do without you he's a grown man and he will have strength to move on. Don't stay just to make him happy if you're not.
You have to discover who you are before you can share your life with someone and I think you are feeling that desire so you need to go out and discover yourself. The rest will fall in place.
After re-reading my post I sound so lost and desperate, although I consider myself to be a strong independant person. I was 18 and he was 21 when we married. It's so hard cause we do love eachother so much and I feel so close to him. Sometimes I feel like if I ruin the relationship with one of the only people who has cared so whole-heartedly for me, I'll just be left on my own. I may erase the post before the end of the night but I really thank you for the advise.