Young Wife Needs Advice.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Young Wife Needs Advice.
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Wed, 05-12-2004 - 11:35pm
What am I supposed to do? I love my husband so much. But I ain't happy. I try to talk to him, but he won't listen. Please, help! Tell me what I should do!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:12am

Communication is the heart of a relationship and without it, no matter how much love there is, it's hard for a relationship to grow, nurture and be healthy. Let your husband know this. Tell him that unless he's willing and able to open his ears, his heart and mind and become a real partner, this relationship may well be in danger. Let him know that love is a gift, but it must be nurtured and cared for. If he still doesn't listen or talk, then get yourself some good help so you can make healthy choices for your life.


Best wishes.

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Registered: 01-22-2004
Thu, 05-13-2004 - 10:41am
Thanks a lot. We are also having a problem with trust. I've never given him a reason not to trust me, but he don't. He's been hurt in past relationships, but so have I. He's always checking my email and checking up on me. My friends tell me I should change my password, but then he will think I am trying to hide something and I'm not. I've always trusted him. I've never had to wonder whether or not he was telling me thr truth. Now, I believe that without trust, our marriage will never work out.
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Registered: 09-26-2003
Fri, 05-14-2004 - 5:01pm

If you are'nt happy, then you need to let your husband know. He cannot change if he doesnt know things need to and he certainly cant read minds.


When you talk to your husband about your unhappiness, be prepared with a list of things you think the both of you can do(this isnt just his problem, your responsible for your own happiness also.) to try to improve things..be specific. If spending more quality time together is an issue, state what activities you can do together. It may be as simple as wanting to hear i love you more often...


Communication is key to a healthy relationship, but please note that nothing or noone is perfect.