He's too big, what can I do?

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Registered: 02-16-2010
He's too big, what can I do?
Tue, 02-16-2010 - 5:01pm

My fiance's penis is 9.5 inches long. I'm 5'1 & petite. It feels good for me in the missionary position, even when he does it really hard. But he wants to be able to do it in other positions & so do I... but when we try that & he tries to go all the way in, it feels like it's hitting my insides... & I don't know what that means, whether it's hitting other organs, going in at an angle that makes it hit the sides, or if it's hitting the end or too far back. He's just so big for me! We both really want to be able to have sex in any position, hard & fast... what can I do to make it not hurt?

I guess he is hitting my cervix because my vaginal cavity just isn't long enough. Someone in another forum was talking about an HBO special that they saw that said that on average a woman's vaginal cavity is only 4 inches deep, but when aroused it will extend to accommodate the penis on average to roughly 7 inches deep & only about 20% of women can accept a penis longer than 8 inches to be fully inserted. Sometimes it seems like it doesn't hurt as much & I guess it's possible that maybe I'm just that much more turned on or horny allowing my vaginal cavity to expand more. People have suggested that he just needs to be more careful not to go too deeply or thrust too hard when in other positions, but that's where the problem is....

When he thrusts fast & hard in missionary position it feels good to me, but a lot of the time he says that he's not going all the way in (even though it seems like he is to me) & he wants to be able to. He also doesn't want to only do the same position all of the time.

When I put my legs up on his shoulders it's fine until he starts to thrust harder & too deeply. It usually doesn't last very long at all in that position because I have to keep squirming around because it hurts so much, so he'll start to get frustrated with having to continually "chase" me & we'll have to change positions. We could do that position slower & not as deep, but he says he doesn't get enough sensation to orgasm that way because he needs the fast & hard sensations.

Doggy style feels like he's barely even able to get in at all & I can feel him pushing all against the front of me which hurts & feels like he's also pressing against my bladder.

When I'm on top & facing him that seems to fit ok most of the time, but I'm sure he'd probably say that he still wasn't going in all the way sometimes. It also doesn't allow him to feel the quickness of the friction as I can't move my body up & down as quickly as he is able to thrust.

I don't know... I just really want to be able to have the excitement of hard & fast thrusting & the variety of different positions just as much as he does, but the problem is that he simply just doesn't fit that way since he's so big!

Also, someone in another forum suggested a penis ring... has anyone had any experience with those? Does it stop him from going in too far to allow him to thrust hard & fast? Can it hurt either person? Will it still bother him to not feel his whole penis going inside of me? Are the any other ideas for what we can do? What about any position ideas? Has anyone else had this problem & have you had any success figuring out how to deal with it?




Edited 2/16/2010 7:15 pm ET by bluskye218