Do you think this woman is crushing on me?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2012
Do you think this woman is crushing on me?
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Sun, 11-18-2012 - 9:16pm

Okay, we are both women who post on a local newpaper forum.

There is this woman who is by all accounts married and straight. She is always picking arguments with me on the forum. A few times she has stated to other posters who tell her to just 'ignore' me that that wouldn't be fun. Other times she has stated to others that other than politics, she likes me. I don't seek her out or comment on her posts, but she always seems to seek me out to argue with me.

I liked her, but she started to lay on thick with the insults, calling me an idiot and stupid. We argue mostly over politics as we are diametrically opposed politically. Yet, I can't tell if it's playful or what. If she really dislikes me, why is she constantly goading me?

It reminds me of a schoolyard when a kid likes a girl and pulls her hair to get her attention.

She has used sexual innuendo a few times also.

What do you think?

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-03-2011
Fri, 12-28-2012 - 11:24pm

It doesn't sound like she likes you. If she does then she's being pretty childish. Besides, you don't call people you like idiots or anything like that. If she DOES like you you may want to think twice about liking her back. I believe you may be able to block her if her posts are bothering you. It sounds like she is tracking you. I'd message the cl on the boards you are posting and ask them how to best handle it. 

Regardless of whether or not she is telling other posters she "likes" you or is making sexual inuendos she is being a bully. I'd say don't waste your time replying to ANY of her messages and block her from communicating with you at all. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2012

I agree she is being a bully. We have had some interesting debates but then she went against me over my political views. I stopped posting for a while then she made a call-out thread about me. Another poster said that she seems to be obsessed with me, yet all she does is spew insults. I put her on ignore.