Help!

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Tue, 09-04-2012 - 10:56pm

Hi There,

My boyfriend of 8 months works out at the gym and enjoys going to the sauna after his workout.  For various reasons, I asked him today if he had ever done anything with anyone else since we had been together.  He admitted that once in the gym sauna he jerked off together with another man.  He also admitted that sometimes he goes on Grindr and sex-chats with other men.  The fact that he had Grindr did not bother me as I already knew he had grindr, but he said he used it to chat with other partnered friends.  

 

I don't know what to do.  He told me he made a mistake and that he still loves me.  He has told me that he has had more opportunities to jerk-off with other men at the Sauna, but has passed them down.  I care for him, but I am afraid he will do it again, and I don't know if jerking together at the Sauna will turn into a more "regular" thing.  As well, he told me that he only really used Grindr to chat with friends, but he was not truthful about that either.  I feel lied to and used by him, and he broke my heart.  I know 8 months is not along time with someone, what am I to do?  I know mutual masturbation is not the same as oral or penetration, but I still feel betrayed and lied too since he was not forth-coming when he did it a few months ago.