Out On a Limb

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Registered: 07-04-2008
Out On a Limb
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Thu, 04-12-2012 - 7:45am

Hi everyone,

I'm in my early 40s and have been an exclusively straight male all my life, with a strong feminine side that includes a lifetime of occasional crossdressing and interest in what are usually considered women's activities.

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Registered: 05-15-2009
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 7:59pm
Welcome to the group! It must have been a lot for him to digest when he found out that you are a male, but I think it's a good sign that he didn't want to cut ties after he found out. Have you heard back from him since you told him about the crush?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2008
Fri, 04-13-2012 - 9:03pm

Hi Jen - no response yet, but he's been a bit busy of late with work so that's not unexpected.

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Registered: 07-04-2008
Tue, 04-17-2012 - 10:10pm

Well, I just heard back from him and while he admitted he was flattered, he politely declined to pursue anything but friendship with me.

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Registered: 04-20-2012
Sat, 04-21-2012 - 1:42pm

I would say it has also perhaps been good practice for you. It's nice that you've had a safe place and situation to try this in. There's nothing wrong (to my mind) in you pursuing men in this manner, provided you don't deceive them. There are plenty of websites that would be appropriate for this. As anecdotal evidence, from a bi-male perspective, I'd be very attracted to this situation. I'm sorry this guy wasn't the right one for you but best of luck!