What should I do?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-24-2009
What should I do?
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Wed, 07-25-2012 - 6:09pm

Hi everyone! I am  married to a straight man but I have a strong attraction to the same sex and I have been in a serious relationship with a woman before. Over the years I found that my attraction to women has gotten much stronger and my feelings towards men has really decreased. I find some things about sex with men disgusting and I am starting to wonder if i am really a Lesbian. I have been identifying as Bisexual for the past 7 years. I have a wonderful husband but since my attraction to women has gotten stronger I find that I have less and less desire to be with a man in a sexual way. I don't want to lose my husband but I do need to figure out my sexuality and know what direction i am going in. Does anyone have any advice?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-18-2011
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 8:02am
That's a toughie....you're married.....but you're more happy being with another woman...life is so short....be happy....
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2010
Thu, 07-26-2012 - 9:58am

Has your husband been OK with your being bisexual?  Are you losing desire for him as well?  If so, then it's not fair to either of you for you to pretend that everything is fine.  This is a really hard situation because it's not like you don't love your husband anymore.  How long have you been married?