When did you know you were gay?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
When did you know you were gay?
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Tue, 12-03-2013 - 4:57pm

I thought that this was a great attitude from a mom of a 9 year boy who accepts that her son identifies as being gay: 

And I get how unusual it is to see such a young child identifying as gay. Although I hear from other parents with young gay children in grade school, I am still the only mom writing about it (something that can be a challenge of its own for my husband and me). But for most people who know my kid, he is the only gay elementary-school-aged child they have ever heard of, and it doesn't sit well with them. To a lot of straight people, being gay is all about sex, and sex isn't what they want to be thinking about with a third-grader.

Another part of me gets really tired of having this conversation. I don't get why people worry about it. Our kid is who he is. And who he is is never going to change. Sure, he might come to me tomorrow and tell me that he has a crush on a girl. I would be really surprised if he did, but it could happen. But that wouldn't change who he is. He'd still be my son. He'd still be the kid who would rather play basketball than do schoolwork. He'd still be the kid who acts like I am killing him when we decide to have a "no screens" day. It's my job as his mom to parent who he is today. And today he identifies as gay.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/Amelia/stop-waiting-for-my-gay-son-to-change_b_4304070.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

How young were you when you figured it out?  

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 12-08-2013 - 1:49am

  True kids change as they grow up.  At 9 he may or may not be accurate.  Who knows?   Only time will tell.

Goldfish

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Fri, 02-21-2014 - 12:52pm
When I was 11, I felt desire for an older woman, my mother's best friend. When I was 14, I felt a strange thrill when I saw a friend's spanking. In college, I again felt thrills and goosebumps being seen nude through my bedroom window blinds by a woman in the apartment building next door. That was when I finally became certain that women excited me, too. I continued to let her watch me surreptitiously for months and it excited me terribly.