BJ help!

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Registered: 03-02-2009
BJ help!
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Wed, 07-01-2009 - 2:31pm
Hey everybody! I've never given a BJ. My DH would love one and I have teased him a little and have taken him in my mouth a couple of times but never really kept going with it. I told him I would one day work myself up to it. I don't know why it's just not something I really like. I want to do it for him tho because I love him. Would it be ok if I asked if he wore a condom? Does it feel the same? No he's never pressured me and he doesn't ask for it all the time, but I know he'd enjoy it.
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Registered: 05-20-2007
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 8:00pm

Hi there.....


If i were a man, and my wife asked me to wear a condom for oral, unless

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Wed, 07-01-2009 - 8:13pm

Do you want him to wear a condom so he doesn't cum in your mouth?


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Registered: 03-06-2007
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 11:00am

Welcome to the Oral Board daisy_lilly1 :)


I really don't have much to add since Tish covered your questions and answers perfectly.

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Registered: 03-02-2009
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 11:46am
Thanks for replyin! I was a virgin when we married and he's had different partners--is STD free, but I was told a few months ago that I had HPV and he would have no idea that he had had it. No symptoms or anything so I guess now I'm just a little paranoid lol. What if there was something else then that we didn't know about.. I feel crazy for feelin that way too wish I could just get over it and do it. I guess its just b/c its my mouth, we don't use condoms when we have sex..
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Registered: 02-05-2008
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 1:33pm

Hi daisy I hope I can add to what the ladies have said and

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Registered: 04-02-2009
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Thu, 07-02-2009 - 5:56pm
That was a good statement about him using a condom while she got used to giving oral.
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Registered: 06-15-2009
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Fri, 07-03-2009 - 12:08am
I personally wouldn't give guys head with a condom, doesn't sound appealing to me and I bet it doesn't feel good for them. I'd recommend giving it a try, only way to find out. Most likely it won't be as bad you think it will be. That's what my friends have told me who were worried about it at first but when they tried it they said it wasn't all that bad. To me it's a very enjoyable part of giving blowjobs.
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Registered: 07-03-2009
In reply to: daisy_lilly1
Fri, 07-03-2009 - 3:41pm

When I was first dating my husband, I was a virgin. I wanted very much to please him, but I was scared to go all the way. So I would take him in my mouth for seconds at a time, then kiss him other places, his chest, nipples, inside of his thighs... You get the picture. One thing he used to love, and still does, is have me over him and let my breasts "massage" his penis. Then, I could take him in my mouth for a couple more seconds. At the time, I was not overly fond of the secretions that would form at the tip of his penis. But over time (18 yrs!) I went from disliking it, to getting "used" to it, and now, I LOVE IT!

The first time my husband came in my mouth, I gagged. I apologised. He was not offended, he said he appreciated that I was even willing to try! It took a long time for me to want to try that again... but eventually I did. And then I tried again. Now, every time I give him a bj, he comes in my mouth. Sometimes I swallow, sometimes, I just let it ooze out. It depends on how I am feeling (honestly I can't swallow his cum if I've just eaten a big meal).

What I'm trying to say is give yourself some time. You have a whole lifetime of sex together. Enjoy! If you are feeling like taking him in your mouth, DO IT! If not, no pressure, tomorrow's another day :) Enjoy your husband and have fun. But don't be scared to try... It gets easier.