BJ issue

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Registered: 09-19-2009
BJ issue
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Sat, 09-19-2009 - 8:00am

My wife and I have been married for 13 years. I love her beyond any words can tell. She is most beautiful and sexiest woman I have ever seen or come across. She is also my first and only woman.


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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: lsag
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 8:51am

Welcome to the board Isag.


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Registered: 09-19-2009
In reply to: lsag
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 9:31am

No, it is not that she would be hurt if I ask her to do something different. We both would do anything for each other. The problem first and foremost I really don't know what to ask her as I never got BJ from anyone else. I would guess that more friction and sucking would provide more stimulation for me but she may have not been able to take more into her mouth (although I am not big) because she has gagging issue, she can't even swallow small pill. Now she hardly takes the head in.


I even started thinking there is something wrong with me, maybe I am too sensitive to her teeth and not that much sensitive to her sucking.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
In reply to: lsag
Sat, 09-19-2009 - 10:13am

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Registered: 07-24-2007
In reply to: lsag
Mon, 09-21-2009 - 1:52pm
Hell, you are one lucky man. You have 3 kids and have sex every day! Wow, you should love your wife. As for Bj's, I can't really offer much help because I have not had one in over 2 years, just as you, my wife is my one and only sex partner. However, this woman is willing to give you oral and swallow, she sounds very willing to please and so I would just talk to her as she is doing the act-tell her to take more in, tell her to go slow or fast, hell for that matter, just rent a porno and watch it with her-those ladies know how to give head. She sounds like the type that would watch one and just say something like, damn hun, I want you to try doing that to me-then just direct her as to what feels good. If that doesn't work, just send her to my house and she can practice on me. :)
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Registered: 09-19-2009
In reply to: lsag
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 7:25am

OK, thank you for response. I am not sure I will follow your advice -:)))


Yes, I love her with all my heart. And not just because we have sex every day. I love her for how she is. Sex is just most emotional and strongest way to express this love.


I will try to ask her to explore a bit. There is one point though. I am very much afraid of hurting her. If I let her know or if she just gets it as she is failing it will hurt her a lot. She is very sensitive person. It would help if I knew how BJ should be done. It also took me a while to learn how to please her orally. But it was me who tried to explore what she liked with her telling me. Now I perfected my skills to the level that I can bring her to clitoral orgasm in 30 seconds if I want (usually I spread it to about 5 min to let her and me enjoy it).

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Registered: 03-06-2007
In reply to: lsag
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 1:16pm

Welcome to the Oral Board Isag :)


You've been given some wonderful advice and I'm just wondering how you've made out?

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Registered: 09-19-2009
In reply to: lsag
Tue, 09-22-2009 - 8:42pm

My wife is wonderful woman and she is always happy to please me to try something new. However, she is always in passive role relative to me and not only in sex but in life too. It is me who discovers new things, she is always very happy and open to them to try, but I need to suggest them, not her. I wanted her to read me erotic stories and she happily did, I asked her if she could have her nude pictured professionally taken. She said she would be more than happy, but it was me to found a photographer and arranged everything. And there many other fantastic things in our intimate life that we did but they all were suggested by me.


Having said this I cannot just tell her, "try to explore different stuff with oral sex to make it more pleasurable for me". She just won't know what to do, will get nervous and things may even get worse than they are now. I need to give her guidance what to do and the problem with BJ I don't know what direction to guide her to.

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Registered: 03-06-2007
In reply to: lsag
Thu, 09-24-2009 - 2:01pm
Here are some tips I copied and pasted for you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-17-2009
In reply to: lsag
Fri, 09-25-2009 - 11:50am

Isag,


First, do you think she likes giving you oral or does she do it just to please you?

 


 


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Registered: 07-04-2005
In reply to: lsag
Sat, 09-26-2009 - 11:42pm
I got off reading this ????

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