Boyfriend won't come from bj

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Registered: 06-29-2009
Boyfriend won't come from bj
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Mon, 06-29-2009 - 1:27am
I've given my boyfriend a bj many times and he still doesn't come. I've given him some for 45min. and we just end up stopping because it takes too long. He says that I'm doing a really really good job and he doesn't know why he can't come. He cums when he masturbates and he doesn't masturbate a lot. He's not stressed and he's not on any medication. What do i do?? Will he not come once we start having sex?? HELPPP
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Mon, 06-29-2009 - 7:02am

Not all guys can cum from oral sex and from the many posts on this and the other sex boards, it's not uncommon.


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Registered: 06-25-2004
Mon, 06-29-2009 - 9:31am

Hi halafala,


Like Tish mentioned,not all guys do cum from oral sex.


If this will make you feel a little better and help you understand:


I am a male and I have had women whom I have been with including my wife would go down on me and I wouldn't cum.I can remember there were these 2 women I was seeing long before I met my wife,who always would go down on me

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Registered: 03-06-2007
Mon, 06-29-2009 - 11:36am

Welcome to the Oral Board halafala :)


You've been given great tips and advice from Tish and Howie shared with you his personal experiences.

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Registered: 07-19-2009
Tue, 07-28-2009 - 8:03am

My boyfriend only comes through sex. He sometimes preejaculates during a hand job but never ever ever has he through Oral.

Sex is a totally different feeling for guys. My boyfriend said that he can relieve himself so much more through sex. I've never orgasmed through sex. But I go crazy for oral and foreplay so it just depends on the person.

He's probably worrying about how it effects you. Next time you perform Oral, just see what happens. If he doesn't come, do something else. Dont carry on and on and on and on because you will both lose interest and Oral wont be as fun as before.

My boyfriend enjoys it so much but I dont like giving it as much as I used to because he is too polite and wont let himself come.

I hope things work out :]

Love Sophhh xo
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Registered: 10-23-2009
Wed, 10-28-2009 - 4:03pm

My new lover can't generally cum through oral sex alone either. He gets and stays hard as a rock, and there is a lot of that pre-cum stuff, but he will not ejaculate.

Once or twice I have been able to make him cum with just my mouth and hand but it was an extraordinary workout to say the least, involving gallons of saliva and tired jaws and arms. He will come quite a lot but it involves a *tremendous* amount of stimulation. Not something I can realistically do on a regular basis.

The solution is simple. During a bj, he just starts stroking it for a minute or two when he gets near, and then he can put it back in my mouth when it's time to ejaculate, or more often than not he just lets fly on me.