Can't make BF climax via oral

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Can't make BF climax via oral
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Thu, 08-19-2004 - 12:26pm
My BF and I have been dating for 1 year now, and I still can't make him climax from oral stimulation. I use my mouth, tongue, hands, play with his boys, bum, etc. but I think the main problem is that he's so used to high speed masturbation (i.e., he moves his hands incredibly fast when jerking off), he can't get off from the slower speed of my oral movements. Any recommendations? Unfortunately I can't let him do vigorous thrusting in my mouth because of my small jaw (i.e., I'll end up hurting him with my teeth) as well as a sensitive gag reflex....

Thanks in advance for any advice you can give.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 1:54pm
i have been having the same problem i've only tried to finish him a few of times cause uselly the blow job is part of foreplay but i just can't seem to get him to climax.
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Registered: 08-12-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 2:06pm
Hi workingmom,

I was married and me exW did notalow me to cum in her mouth.

Now I have been with my gf for 3 yrs. and she likes to do oral on me.

I had a problem at first dueto my previous situation.

My gf would start on me and when I got excited enough, she had me use my handand jerk offon the lower part of theshaft while sheworked on thehead.

This way I was able to cum in her mouth and get used to the idea that she Wanted me toand it was OK. Now she can do it with just her mouth and we both can relaxand enjoy.

I Love her for what great gift shegave me...helping me through that.

That maynot be the reason your bf is having trouble, but maybe he's just afraid of you not liking the tasted, or choking. Men are very sensitive about thier sex being accepted and wanted without any problems.

I'm sorry this is so long...trying to get my point across is difficult today. LOL

Hope I may have shed some light.

Goodluck and have fun!

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 2:37pm
First of all, you cannot make your boyfriend have an orgasm, no more than he can make you orgasm.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Thu, 08-19-2004 - 2:42pm
Great post luvlickin and glad everything worked out good with your girlfriend.






~Tish




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Registered: 08-12-2004
Fri, 08-20-2004 - 12:03pm
Thanks Tish,

I just re-read it and...OMG...I need a new keyboard. I can't believe how many spaces that didn't show up. I have one of those flat, thin, rubber keyboards and they suck. LOL

Oh well...Got my point across. :)
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Registered: 08-20-2004
Sat, 08-21-2004 - 9:52pm
another suggestion, if you are comfortable with it, is to have regular sex and when he's "on the verge" have him move to your mouth and then finish him off. It's something I've done a lot of in the past.
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Registered: 03-25-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 2:06am

I have the same problem.

Cali

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Registered: 08-19-2004
Mon, 08-23-2004 - 11:03am
Thanks very much. It helps to know I'm not the only one with this issue. My BF has not complained about it at all. Says he loves the oral action no matter whether he climaxes or not. I was with 1 other guy for 14 years, and we never had this issue (i.e., he always climaxed via oral), so this is something new for me. Just need to learn to accept that every guy is different. Not necessarily better or worse - just different.

Thanks again.

- workingmom04