giving a BJ disgusts me

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Registered: 03-23-2006
giving a BJ disgusts me
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Fri, 06-05-2009 - 6:22pm

I will do it, but I cannot stand it and I certainly do not get as turned on by giving one as my fiance does to get one.

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Registered: 04-23-2004
Fri, 06-05-2009 - 8:41pm

What


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Registered: 03-23-2006
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 12:13pm
I'm not really sure what it is...psychological maybe?
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Registered: 04-23-2004
Sun, 06-07-2009 - 4:42pm

You can change your mindset and enjoy it but only if you want to change and want to enjoy it.


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Registered: 03-06-2007
Mon, 06-08-2009 - 11:31am

Welcome to the Oral Board goddess_tracy10 :)


Like Tish said, only you can change your mindset and enjoy giving oral sex to your fiance.

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Registered: 08-28-1998
Wed, 06-10-2009 - 4:09pm
I certainly hope you solve this problem. Please don't become a woman that gives her fiance BJs and a wife that refuses.
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Registered: 12-18-2007
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:22pm

Hi Tracy,


I don't classify a BJ any differently than any other act of lovemaking I share with my DH. It is not something I do "just because he likes it." When I do it, I am making love to my husband, I am giving him pleasure. The last thing I am thinking about is if it is gross or slutty.


If you can't bring yourself to this point, then you shouldn't do it...and he shouldn't beg for it. He should understand your position and be satisfied with what you are comfortable with.


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Registered: 03-06-2007
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 12:58pm
Thank you for sharing and joining the Oral Board robsbaby :)

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Registered: 03-17-2009
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 2:16pm

Although I do not know how you can overcome this, I do know I've seen posts from many men here on the boards that are OK with the fact that their partners do not give oral. Like anothr poster said, you should discuss this before getting married. Period. Let your partner know you are willing to work on this, but you cannot make any promises. Be sure he is OK with that and can truly respect that. In addition, expecting this act to be a precursor to sex is unfair to you. Mainly because it sounds like it humiliates you in a negative way. I can imagine that having sex after "giving in" to his request, may even multiply this humiliation. Even if you want to get over this, I guess it would be difficult and take time.


 


 


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Registered: 03-06-2007
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 2:48pm
Welcome to the Oral Board raining_ivy :)

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Registered: 02-21-2004
Tue, 06-23-2009 - 7:08pm

FWIW, I'm male, 50+ and a particular fan of oral sex, giving even more so than receiving.

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